Every time I hear the ball drop I can’t help but think of Billy Crystal in When Harry Met Sally (my all time FAVORITE movie btw) when he looks at her at the end when everyone is singing Auld Lang Syne and says “What does this song mean? My whole life I don’t know what this means.”
In a nutshell, the song itself is reflective of not forgetting our old times with friends, and is basically about two friends catching up, their friendship having been long and occasionally distant.
Correct me if I’m wrong, but aren’t we basically starting every year with a song singing about how we need to reunite with our friends?
Personally, I love the New Year, but I loathe resolutions. Resolutions seem to always remind me of all the things I should be doing, or that I’m not doing well. I feel resentful of them somewhere around March, and by April they are a distant memory.
Then I heard a suggestion from Tim Ferriss that turned the idea of resolutions on my head. He encourages you to reflect on the past year (or two if you wish) and come up with a list of the things that made you happy, or your best self. Then you take that list and actively schedule in more of those things.
If you are not new to our newsletter you already know – I’m all about living a life by design not default.
What better way to do that then by planning out and intentionally doing all the things that make us happier, better people?
And what better way to accomplish that then by planning a vacation with your friends?
So let’s put it on the calendar, make your wishlist, make your plans, call your people and put it on the calendar.
2020 has a lot to look forward to, from the once every ten years Passion Play in Oberammergau, Germany, to the Olympics in Tokyo, to all of the milestones, anniversaries, birthdays, graduations and other special events you are personally celebrating in your lives. Not to mention all the great trips Serendipitous Traveler will announce this year!
This February I am lucky enough to celebrate a series of 50th birthdays on a Girls Cruise that we planned over a year ago. Over the holidays my family made plans for a cruise reunion in 2022.
Over the top to plan that far in advance? Not at all! In fact, when you are juggling so many different schedules and budgets, I argue that it’s the only way to plan a large trip like that.
Whatever it is you are wishing to do – it’s never too early to start planning. And when you are ready, you know I’d love to help! So here’s to our old friends, and new friends we bring into our lives, and to intentionally planning for all the great experiences we will share with them in the New Year!
Until next time, happy wanderlusting!
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We know it’s good for us, we know it’s why we need to getaway. And it’s no wonder that in 2019 the fastest growing demographic for travel was Single Women and Women Only Travel.
And, here at Serendipitous Traveler, we. are. here. for it.
When Serendipitous Traveler was founded, it was founded with the ideal that all women deserve a vacation. Women are the caretakers of everyone, even when on vacation. I mean, Mom’s, when you take a vacation, do you really feel like you were on vacation?
But why don’t we take vacations with our friends?
Because women will traditionally put everyone else’s needs ahead of their own.
Because they feel guilty about spending the money on themselves.
Because they can’t trust their partners to hold down the fort to get away.
Because they don’t have people to travel with
And to that we say phooey
Because if women practiced real self care instead of superficial self care (i.e. a long weekend away to refresh and recharge versus a bubble bath where someone is knocking on the door every three minutes) then we really could run the world.
So here’s our response:
Women will traditionally put everyone else’s needs ahead of their own.
When you put your needs on the back burner, the only thing you end up being is resentful and frustrated. And that serves no one. Now I’m not advocating for you to flip the switch and become a narcissist. (And if you do, please don’t join us on on of our Serendipitous Squad trips).
But if you are taking care of you, you show up to take care of others even better. And you do it from a happy, wholehearted place, then you are setting the example for your own family to show up happier and more wholehearted as well.
And can’t the world use a little more of that?
Man, people would rather talk about puke before they talk about finances. And for many years, I was very much the same. Ignoring my finances and putting my head in the sand was really the only safe way to deal with the scariest topic I could think of – money. And spending money on travel can, at times, feel frivolous.
But let me challenge you there.
I believe that we should be living a life by design, not default. And if we aren’t intentional about our lives, including money, then we are letting life happen to us. And, once again, that serves nobody. When someone stands up at your funeral, I doubt they will tell many stories about how pretty your tchotchkes were. But they will tell a great story about time they spent with you. Quality time, fun moments, endearing conversations – that’s what we want to be remembered for. And we can’t create these moments if we are too afraid to take the time to plan them out and schedule them.
I had a college professor that started every class with the saying “If you fail to plan, you plan to fail.” And nothing could be more true when it comes to our finances and travel. So plan out your travels. Talk with a good advisor to see how much your travel is going to cost, and figure out and make a plan for what you’ll need to do to make it happen. Trust me – you won’t regret your vacation near as much as you’ll regret that ill fitting top you bought from the factory outlet.
They can’t trust their partners to hold down the fort to get away.
Excuse me while I pull out the soap box for a minute (I’m really short, you see).
They. Absolutely. Can. Survive. Without. You.
Do you know how I know that? Because you are amazing, but if you had to leave this world tomorrow, they would find a way. The problem is that it may not be your way.
And that’s ok.
They may flounder a little. They may make cheese quesadillas for every meal while you are gone. They may order out. The house may be a little messy.
But they absolutely will make it. And they may even find new appreciation for you and all the things you do in the process.
And either way, it’s not a good enough reason for you to not take care of you. Remember the resentful, burnt out part I mentioned earlier. It serves no one. But the refreshed you. The one that laughed until she cried. The one that talked things out with her friends. The one that slept in and let someone take care of her for a change. That woman shows up and makes her family even better. And don’t they deserve that too?
They don’t have people to travel with.
This was the number one feedback I got from women over and over again as to why they don’t take girlfriend getaways.
So how can we at Serendipitous Traveler hold up our mission when this is a problem so many women face?
Easy – that’s why we are starting to host Girlfriend Getaways of our own. Because if you don’t have a tribe, then you should travel with ours. You can read more about it here and see more information about our group travel opportunities here. We work hard to forward plan different opportunities to make it easy for you to travel and getaway. We hope you can join us!
In a world where time is money, why aren’t we all working to be more productive and intentional? That’s why we encourage every woman to plan her getaway, work backwards to save and prepare, and then take the time to put herself first. Because it makes all her days better, more relaxed, more productive, and happier.
So in the New Year, we have a new challenge to put in front of our female comrades everywhere. Schedule it. Take time for it. And take time for YOU.
The world needs you to.
Because when we are practicing self care and self love we are showing up for our people in our corner of the world even better than before.
And then who run the world (even better than before)? Girls!
It’s been a little over a year since I started Serendipitous Traveler. Like any new entrepreneurial journey, year one definitely came with ups and downs. It takes awhile to find your footing in a new industry, to learn who all the players are and to decide where you plan on staking your ground.
It’s largely known that the travel industry is a conundrum. There are so many options a person has when it comes to booking their travel – from Online Agencies like Expedia for the budget traveler, to large corporate consortias, to small agencies like myself. There is no shortage of finding what you need. There is someone out there ready to serve up what you ask for, you just have to be diligent enough to ask. Yet, for all of us out there, no one still understands airline pricing, so at least we all have that in common.
So, when I decided to declare my niche in this industry, it was very clear to me from day one what kind of travel I wanted to specialize in. Girlfriend Getaways! I wanted to be the #girlfriendgetawayguru. Why? Because I know how important they are and what a cornerstone they have been in my life. So, I set out on a mission – to take care of the people that seem to spend so much of their time taking care of everyone else, and encourage them to travel with their girlfriends.
This was the feedback I got:
I don’t have anyone to travel with
My friends don’t like to travel
My friends can’t afford to travel
And just like that I knew what I needed to do – founded the Serendipitous Squad Travel Community. They say your vibe attracts your tribe and at Serendipitous Traveler we 100% agree. And we say, if you don’t have a squad to travel with, then we want you to travel with us.
We believe in community over competition.
We believe in supporting one another through all walks of life.
We believe that we are our best selves when we practice real self care.
And we want to see as much of this world as we can before our time is up and want to do it in the company of other extraordinary women who believe these things, too.
Because we want to live a life by design, not by default.
So I invite you to join us. We have a private Facebook community called The Serendipitous Squad Travel Community. Starting in 2020, we will be hosting group trips. We have some domestic and some international plans up our sleeves, but here is the kicker – we are announcing them in our Serendipitous Squad Facebook Group first.
Our first hosted trip will be announced on Black Friday. We will make a general public announcement later, but I’m a little worried that if you wait for the general announcement, the trips might be sold out.
When it comes to getting away with your friends, nothing sounds better in the middle of winter than a warm destination South of the border.But when it comes to you and your friends, youare looking for a little more than an “all-inclusive drunken debauchery long weekend away.” Enter Belize.
Belize has absolutely everything you could want in an ideal girlfriendgetaway:
-Excellent Spas [check]
-Comfortable accommodations with great common areas [check]
-Great food [check]
-Safe Environment [check]
-A beach [check]
-Exciting excursion activities [check check]
Whatever you are looking for Belize has got it.
Depending on what you are looking for in your Girlfriend Getaway, this is what I recommend:
Start your vacation off in the jungle at San Ignacio, and stay at Chaa Creek – enough rustic adventure options from glamping, to little cottage rooms, amazing staff, extensive spa, butterfly garden, culinary classes, and guided activities from canoeing to hiking to the more adventurous excursions like canyoning.
Making the most of your stay you can start the day off with a short guided excursion to a Mayan Ruin. In the afternoon enjoy a quiet massage out on the deck. Then partake in some of the fun beverages at the bar and restaurant at the Lodge.
Chill and Mature
Chabil Mar Pool
A room with a view
2 Bedroom Villa
You want to go to Placencia – Stay at Chabil Mar if you are looking to stay closer to town. Their cute little villas can sleep 6 comfortably, with living room common areas to sit and relax.For a little more luxury, spring for the three bedroom villas at Naia with the largest Spa Center in Belize. At Naia you’ll also find the only yoga studio in Belize offering aerial yoga, ashtanga, among others. Be sure to head down to the boardwalk for some fun shopping.
Fun and Sun
For a more fun and beach vibe atmosphere – head over to San Pedro. Stay at the Victoria House to get everything you need: beautiful infinity pool, great spa, beach access, excellent food and excellent service.
Head into town for a little dancing and fun, watch the chicken drop, eat at Elvis’ Kitchen, and, if you are feeling really adventurous, head on over tot he Truck Stop for rotating events each night from Trivia to family movie night. Take a day trip to ATM caves or snorkeling at Mexico Rocks. Diving adventures can also be found here.
A little of both? Via a short, twenty minute plane ride, you can split your stay for two different experiences. Want to start in the Jungle, and finish your stay by the beach? Start off in San Ignacio and then slide into a different atmosphere and experience in San Pedro.
Whichever you decide to do, Belize has you covered.
And if I can help you get there, you’d know I would love to!